Cheating On People is Good! … Probably.
I spent a good portion of my weekend browsing reddit (/r/worldnews and /r/askreddit in particular), searching for ideas that could work as an argument for this assignment. It only hit me a few hours ago that I probably should’ve just Googled some controversial topic, look for the minority argument on said topic and then attempt to prove why the majority is more “right” than the other portion (this was probably terribly worded).
In any case, somehow, I settled with something less controversial and more modern to add some connection between this post and the readers. Yes, as the title suggests, the remainder of this post will be about dissecting the idea of why cheating on your partner is a good thing (or not).
After a brief search on Google on the topic, the very first link intrigued me because of the URL. Modernwomandigest – really couldn’t get much more interesting than that. The article linked over there in the blue (or purple if you’ve already clicked it) highlights quite a few points on why cheating is good, but for this assignment’s sake, I’ve decided to dissect the first and fifth points simply because these two sort of play off of each other.
1. The best defense is a good offense.
Most women agree that men are hard wired to cheat. It’s sad but true. They are biologically hard wired to spread their seed as much as they can with as many females they can to ensure they further their blood line. It’s not their fault, but regardless, it has been the downfall of many relationships. That’s why this reason has made #1 on our list. Ladies, it’s time to beat your man to the chase and cheat on him first! This helps you secure the dominant role in the relationship, and makes sure he’s too occupied with chasing you around and checking up on you to find someone to cheat in you with. You go girl!
5. Men secretly want you to cheat on them.
Men are natural leaders. Some lead by shouting demands at their subordinates, while others lead by example. As stated in #1, men are biologically prone to cheat in their partners. In this case, they are leading by the example in which they want you to cheat on them with. They may not come right out and say it to your face, but rest assured, they find the idea of you sleeping with another man thrilling. It’s a competitive thing for them, with you being the prize. Who will she come home to tonight? I bet it’s going to be me, after all, I have the biggest muscles!
Oh boy, let’s waste no time and get straight into the destruction process.
- Premise 1. Men are biologically more likely to cheat.
Premise 2. Women are biologically less likely to cheat.
Premise 3. Women dislike getting cheated on.
Premise 4. Men secretly want to get cheated on.
Conclusion: Therefore, women should cheat on their partners to get their “vengeance” in order to win their partner back through competition – in which the man would secretly enjoy.
Admittedly, that is a very, VERY iffy argument… but it’s not like I was expecting much from a website that exists primarily for monetary reasons, though that’s another story.
- Premise 1. Men are biologically more likely to cheat. – I have to say that despite the fact the website claims to have called in experts to research this cheating topic, this is not factually correct (unless you can prove to me that more than half of the population of men are cheaters). Sure, some movies often display men to be absolute beasts when it comes to love and uh, lust, but this is not the case in real life. Each person is different, each person’s values are different and each person’s morals are different, and I sure don’t believe that the next man I see down the hallway has cheated on his partner.
- Premise 2. Women are biologically less likely to cheat. – Similarly to the first point, cheating is not gender based. It differs from person to person. I’d also like to point out that even if most women on this planet have not cheated on their partners, that does not necessarily imply that they are more or less likely to cheat. It’s just a statistic showing that “this is how many women have cheated on their partners” and it does not show their likelihood to do so unless there’s data from previous years… and I mean a LOT of data.
- Premise 3. Women dislike getting cheated on. – Honestly, this is the same idea as the above. Differs from person to person (although I don’t think any of you women want to be cheated on… do you?)
- Premise 4. Men secretly want to get cheated on. – Same idea as the above.
- Conclusion: Therefore, women should cheat on their partners to get their “vengeance” in order to win their partner back through competition – in which the man would secretly enjoy. – Firstly, to clear this point up a bit since I probably didn’t make myself clear here, it says in the article that men secretly enjoy getting cheated on because it provides them with the thrill of winning their woman back – presumably as an ego booster. Again, everything here is very subjective and can be considered factually incorrect…
In the end, I think this argument is all factually incorrect (in fact, it’s really all opinionated… courtesy to those “researchers” who participated in that study), which automatically makes it not sound. However, I can personally see that the premises necessitate the conclusion, so I would consider this valid (up for debate… it’s 12:34 am, don’t hurt me). Moreover, the logic here is pretty flawed according to our society-conforming nature. “We should cheat because men do it to us! We should do the same back to them in order to have them running after us,” is quite literally what the article suggests.
Should you cheat? I don’t know, that’s a choice you’re going to have to make for yourself.
I’m not responsible for any breakups or misunderstandings that occur between anyone’s relationships. If you cheat, it’s your choice, not mine.