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But why should I care?

HI! My name’s Kiuko. It’s pronounced Q-ko. But since 70% of people I tell my name to can’t pronounce that at first, I will accept anything from Cuco to Cucumber to Yoko Ono. I some things I really like are pho, dogs and the occasional deep quote on Tumblr. In this blog post I am just going to rant about something that has been bothering me for a while now.

Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of comments about my appearance.

“Wow, you gained weight over the summer…”
“Why do you wear so much makeup?”
“You really shouldn’t be wearing such revealing clothes”

but along with those comments come comments like these

“You shouldn’t be so insecure about your body!”
“Why are you so self-conscious?”
“You should be grateful for what you have”


So basically you’re telling me to be confident and not self-conscious while judging me when I do things that I like/enjoy that make me feel less insecure and happy? We’re all human, we all have things we don’t like about ourselves, so why do you feel the need to judge someone when they are simply trying to feel better about themselves?

Why do you care if I gained weight over the summer? Why do you care if I wear loads of makeup? Why do you care if I’m wearing a tank top and shorts? Why does it matter to you, and WHY do you expect me to feel happy with my body and the way I present myself when you make those comments about me.

I was getting immensely worked up and upset about these comments until I realized.

Why do I care about what you have to say about my appearance?
Why do I care? Why should I care?

It’s common sense really, that I don’t have to let anything anyone says affect me. Why did it take me so long to realize? Why did it take so long for everyone to realize that it’s okay to do what you want and block out the haters?

Marilyn Monroe once said

“To all the girls that think you’re ugly because you’re not a size 0, you’re the beautiful one. It’s society who’s ugly”

Obviously this doesn’t apply to just girls, it applies to all genders, but this is so true and so real that it really resonated with me when I first read it. Our society IS ugly. I mean just look at the image on the left…

But next time when you see someone rocking a really great outfit or an awesome makeup look, compliment them! Maybe, just maybe, if you keep up with it and if more and more people learn to do the same… society just might become a little less ugly.

Hope you look forward to five months of just me ranting about stuff that bother me!! Peace out.


2 Responses to But why should I care?

  1. Samson says:

    She looks so genuinely stressed out in that thumbnail that other people could possibly be happy with themselves.

    On the topic of beauty and aesthetics though, why do you think that like, specifically with Western beauty conventions, our idea of beauty keeps flipflopping. And it’s different for different people, y’know? Like certain groups of people having a butt too big is unacceptable, and being curvy is alright sometimes but sometimes you gotta be super thin, and who decides how much makeup is too much makeup and everything.

    Like, why did a certain group of aesthetic traits and the trends of acceptable levels of xyz come up? I could go ask 20 people what their ideal level of makeup is but somehow a more natural or conservative look is common with some groups and a bolder group is growing within online communities. But why tho.

  2. Catherine Sutherland says:

    Those type of people who ask those questions don’t realize what they’re really saying. Whether they’re questioning what or why you’re wearing a type of clothing or makeup, all they are doing is judging the fact that you are not how they perceive what ‘beauty’ is. Their mind is flooded with the illusion that what they see in the tabloids and media is what being ‘beautiful’ means.
    This may be shallow but it is an opinion. Those type of people are naive. Thinking one way is the right way is traditional, old, and simple minded.

    To understand what true beauty is, it isn’t appearance or the type of possessions you own, but how you see yourself and being happy for who you are. No one should change that.
    (I enjoy your ranting. Keep it up ;3 )


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